Stuffy (S.A.) Reagan
Involved in international travel in my 20's, I worked for a year within the United States military in Heidelberg when West Germany, 1974.
2021 Netherlands
I like whom I've been able to grow into. There was pain and "repercussion" from family and cultures around me; I don't think I'd change anything for myself. For others, I hope my storytelling can help. ("Seizure of Contentment"-unpublished and "From the Nuthouse and an Outdoor Existence"-a Poetry and Pictorial Art book available on Amazon.com in eBook and Print form since 2019.
I was shocked to discover the pregnancy and found myself too unprepared and far from "relatives" or my own support to give to the prospect of this opportunity I'd hoped to replicate better, later. I became unable to do so in the environment abroad and also back in the U.S. I had a "post-partum"/culture(s) shock depression that has been mitigated and rebalanced among my artist endeavors, subsequent illness, recovery reclaiming my original traveling abroad initiatives to become a lesbian-feminist poet, activist, athlete, scholar and healthcare practitioner, partner of a quintessential Hawaiian-Chinese woman for 25 years.
main man had mouths to feed already, perhaps he was married. I'd had a lot of inducement around me to get pregnant, but I'd found support in going ahead had been short-sighted most of all in/by myself.
How did other people react to your abortion?
One of my partners, a younger man, (American civilian) shared excitement with me when I got a 2nd statement of status from military services confirming the pregnancy near where I'd worked and where my other partner was stationed active U.S. Army. This Black soldier had only recently told me of ties, including children in the states, affording me no grounds of "association." Early on, he'd offered to use a condom. The first partner and I had used some birth control, whereas we had not. A close female associate of mine at work had only given me the address of klinik in Holland, I'd found my way to.