Ewa Izabela

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I am pro-choice

2005 United Kingdom (born in Poland)

It was a hard and extremely difficult decision, and I had a lot of doubts, trying to find my way. Today I’m sure that was a right decision, and I don’t regret it, but I regret deeply that I had to loose a child. I was sad and crying for long time – as we are sad after someone loved died or left for ever, and we cannot help it. But I was right deciding that I wasn’t able to have a child at that moment.

I had my abortion in London, at Marie Stopes, where everyone was very professional, and supporting. My pregnancy was very early – 3,5 weeks, so I had just the pills. Normally the women have strong cramps and a lot of blood after them, but I didn’t. I was extremely stressed because of whole situation, and the night before taking pills I had cramps, and a lot of blood, and I thought it was a kind of miscarriage. So after pills nothing happened, no cramps, and almost no blood.

I had a boyfriend, who told me he was infertile. We were planning to adopt children in the future. I don’t know if he really meant that, or was just lying, but obviously he wasn’t infertile. When I told him I’m pregnant, he said he wasn’t going to stay with me, and he wanted me to abort, he left and stopped contacting me or answering my calls. I was shocked and destroyed by the offensive and extremely cruel way of treating me by someone, who before pretended to love me. I went through all possibilities to see if I’m able to have this child, and I decided that I’m not strong enough on my own (I don’t have supportive family, and my economical situation was quite bad).

Did the illegality of your abortion affect your feelings?

I am Polish, and for last 3 years I have been living and working in UK, where the abortion is legal. It was a great stress to face the abortion situation on my own (no support from the partner or family), and if I had an additional pressure from the legal order, I would feel in a lot bigger oppression. It was a great help and relief for me – while undertaking my decision – to know that I have a choice and don’t have to have a baby, and I was lucky not to face this situation in Poland, where the abortion is still illegal.

How did other people react to your abortion?

I was quite on my own, and had only one friend, who knew and supported me, which I'm very grateful for.

YoungWoman from India

This website gave me the confidence that I could do it. It gave me all the…

Flor de Luna

Piloto automático, pero no me arrepiento

Magda

Może jestem bez serca ale niczego nie żałuję. ja chyba nie nadaję się na matkę…

Lily

I had an abortion and I'm not ashamed

Marcela

Es más una historia de amor, que de un aborto pero posiblemente en algo te…

Camila Gray

I had an abortion,im having my abortion.

Ashley

I got pregnant at age 44 after a birth control failure. I am so blessed to…

Madison

Una lucha constante.

miriam la desesperacion

Con cytotex Y aun no se si fue lo mejor, pero era necesario

Han

Don’t confuse ‘what ifs’ with regret.

Liz Roldan

Porque mi situación económica era bulnerable y tenia otro hijo de 5 años al…

Silvia

Nunca arrepentida

Gemma

The best decision for me.

Chinchulina

I come from a country where abortion is legal but due to my personal…

Ma N

Y fue un proceso duro física y emocionalmente.

Paula *

Yo acompañe a mi hermana quien pasó por este proceso, siempre fui una persona…

R. P.

Força, meninas, que tudo se ajeita!