Ewa Izabela

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I am pro-choice

2005 United Kingdom (born in Poland)

It was a hard and extremely difficult decision, and I had a lot of doubts, trying to find my way. Today I’m sure that was a right decision, and I don’t regret it, but I regret deeply that I had to loose a child. I was sad and crying for long time – as we are sad after someone loved died or left for ever, and we cannot help it. But I was right deciding that I wasn’t able to have a child at that moment.

I had my abortion in London, at Marie Stopes, where everyone was very professional, and supporting. My pregnancy was very early – 3,5 weeks, so I had just the pills. Normally the women have strong cramps and a lot of blood after them, but I didn’t. I was extremely stressed because of whole situation, and the night before taking pills I had cramps, and a lot of blood, and I thought it was a kind of miscarriage. So after pills nothing happened, no cramps, and almost no blood.

I had a boyfriend, who told me he was infertile. We were planning to adopt children in the future. I don’t know if he really meant that, or was just lying, but obviously he wasn’t infertile. When I told him I’m pregnant, he said he wasn’t going to stay with me, and he wanted me to abort, he left and stopped contacting me or answering my calls. I was shocked and destroyed by the offensive and extremely cruel way of treating me by someone, who before pretended to love me. I went through all possibilities to see if I’m able to have this child, and I decided that I’m not strong enough on my own (I don’t have supportive family, and my economical situation was quite bad).

Did the illegality of your abortion affect your feelings?

I am Polish, and for last 3 years I have been living and working in UK, where the abortion is legal. It was a great stress to face the abortion situation on my own (no support from the partner or family), and if I had an additional pressure from the legal order, I would feel in a lot bigger oppression. It was a great help and relief for me – while undertaking my decision – to know that I have a choice and don’t have to have a baby, and I was lucky not to face this situation in Poland, where the abortion is still illegal.

How did other people react to your abortion?

I was quite on my own, and had only one friend, who knew and supported me, which I'm very grateful for.

Cristina Lima

Fiz um aborto.

Raqueli

misto de melancolia e alívio

Natalia M

Yo aborté, y no me arrepiento.

Bee

I felt very guilty but relieved . I was way too young to be a mother.

Cindy Rios

Yo aborte porque no estaba en el momento adecuado para tener un hijo, mi madre…

Alma en busca de libertad

MI DECISIÓN, MI CUERPO, JUSTICIA PARA LAS MUJERES.

Dominika

Historia jest dosyć banalna i podejrzewam, że nie ja jedna zaszłam w taki…

Sierra

I had to get an abortion after my Skyla IUD was placed improperly or slipped. I…

Jo

I'm in a loving relationship and it wasn't too long ago when I found out I was…

Iza

To było trudne doświadczenie, ale nie żałuję.

Julieta Iovaldi Curutchet

Decidí desde el principio no compartir esa experiencia con la pareja de ese…

Florencia

No podía quedar embarazada, las posibilidades para que eso suceda (según los…

Belen

Mi experiencia con Oxaprost. 7 semanas.

Adhi

Saya masih duduk di kelas 3 SMA saat melakukan aborsi. Saya sudah pacaran…

Sam

I was 21 years old. I actually had just stopped using Birth Control due to the…

Mary Adler

Saya hamil 7minggu. Saya seorang muslim dan pacar saya seorang yang menganut…

Cacau

O aborto é uma escolha apenas da MULHER.

Maree

It was sad but necessary