Ewa Izabela

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I am pro-choice

2005 United Kingdom (born in Poland)

It was a hard and extremely difficult decision, and I had a lot of doubts, trying to find my way. Today I’m sure that was a right decision, and I don’t regret it, but I regret deeply that I had to loose a child. I was sad and crying for long time – as we are sad after someone loved died or left for ever, and we cannot help it. But I was right deciding that I wasn’t able to have a child at that moment.

I had my abortion in London, at Marie Stopes, where everyone was very professional, and supporting. My pregnancy was very early – 3,5 weeks, so I had just the pills. Normally the women have strong cramps and a lot of blood after them, but I didn’t. I was extremely stressed because of whole situation, and the night before taking pills I had cramps, and a lot of blood, and I thought it was a kind of miscarriage. So after pills nothing happened, no cramps, and almost no blood.

I had a boyfriend, who told me he was infertile. We were planning to adopt children in the future. I don’t know if he really meant that, or was just lying, but obviously he wasn’t infertile. When I told him I’m pregnant, he said he wasn’t going to stay with me, and he wanted me to abort, he left and stopped contacting me or answering my calls. I was shocked and destroyed by the offensive and extremely cruel way of treating me by someone, who before pretended to love me. I went through all possibilities to see if I’m able to have this child, and I decided that I’m not strong enough on my own (I don’t have supportive family, and my economical situation was quite bad).

Did the illegality of your abortion affect your feelings?

I am Polish, and for last 3 years I have been living and working in UK, where the abortion is legal. It was a great stress to face the abortion situation on my own (no support from the partner or family), and if I had an additional pressure from the legal order, I would feel in a lot bigger oppression. It was a great help and relief for me – while undertaking my decision – to know that I have a choice and don’t have to have a baby, and I was lucky not to face this situation in Poland, where the abortion is still illegal.

How did other people react to your abortion?

I was quite on my own, and had only one friend, who knew and supported me, which I'm very grateful for.

Sarah Brown Sara

A pesar de que tengo la edad suficiente y una pareja estable y en planes de…

Ma N

Y fue un proceso duro física y emocionalmente.

Chispi

¿decisión o "me hice a la idea"?

Anon

I had an abortion at 15...and my life is still going well

Jora

Fiz um aborto e o momento foi muito delicado. Primeiro que fui procurar os…

Andrea

Todo va a pasar, hace apenas 72 hs que termino pero se me han hecho eternas, se…

Lagard

Never had I thought I would go down this road someday

Abbie

I had an abortion and don't regret it.

Edyta

Nie wstydzę się tego, że jestem teraz szczęśliwa!!!

Phoebe

I didn't want to do it, but it is my worst fear to bring another child into the…

Patricia Bronstein

I was married and had known since an early age that I did not want to be a…

Claudia Aviles

i had an abortion, and 10 years later i became a mother. you have the right to…

alejandra

Primero que nada quiero agradecer a todas estas mujeres que han brindado su…

Paulina

Zakupiłam proszki przez women on web bałam się bardzo czy wszystko…

Casey

Medical abortion, 19 years old

Sol Sila

No era el momento