Lora Fleming

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I had 3 abortions and as a medical student, I helped preform several abortions as well as seeing the results of "illegal" abortions

1989 United States

in looking back I did feel guilty but so relieved -- also the persistent nausea I experienced with all 3 pregnancies stopped almost immediately which was huge - and now many years later I still feel such relief and I feel such fear about what is happening in the US and other places right now -- all women deserve a safe accessible inexpensive choice

it was relatively quick with some physical pain and major emotional pain even with supportive partner -- the nurses were empathetic but the doctors (could be my projection) seemed distant and cold

I had one daughter and a very busy and fulfilling career and life and I did not want to have more children -- it was in some ways a "selfish" decision but one that I am glad I was able to make and obtain a safe abortion without major financial or health costs

Did the illegality of your abortion affect your feelings?

I felt incredibly lucky -- as a college student before becoming a physician I had worked in a public hospital in Arequipa Peru where women were brought when they had unfinished "illegal" abortions -- they were denounced by the healthcare providers because it was illegal and often not given any pain medicines -- and they had many horrible long term consequences including infections, infertility, chronic pain and this continues https://radioambulante.org/en/audio-en/we-decide as well as we will see more of this in the US and beyond and I try to support groups like planned parenthood, the reproductive rights foundation, women on waves, women on web

How did other people react to your abortion?

In general with support and love although distinctly an issue especially from the physician who did 2 of these abortions that "3 is too many"

Riki

We're not monsters!

Naii C

Era apenas uma menina de 16 anos, não usava anticoncepcional mantinha relação…

Maleja

Yo aborté.

JasminMisa

Abortar es tu elección!

Emily

It isn't and shouldn't be as taboo as it is made out to be.

Liz Price

I had an abortion

Yaya

Elegí no ser madre

elena

interrumpi un embarazo de 6 semanas

Charlotte Sigler

I had an abortion

Petal

I had an abortion only a few months ago. I'm 30, a praticing Christian, a…

Deborah

I had an abortion I’m not mad about all the soul-baring on the internet, but I…

Mickey

I was 22 turning 23 when I found out I was 4 weeks pregnant. The father and I…

Sara

Postanowiłam opisać swoją historię, ponieważ historie innych kobiet bardo dużo…

Szczęściara

Rok 2018 miał być dla mnie rokiem od którego oczekiwałam dużo zmian…

Laura

Fue una difícil decisión a pesar que no es mi primer aborto. Sé que tengo un…

Francis

Una decisión consciente de vida

Sharon

I don't regret my abortion.

Joana

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