Lora Fleming

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I had 3 abortions and as a medical student, I helped preform several abortions as well as seeing the results of "illegal" abortions

1989 United States

in looking back I did feel guilty but so relieved -- also the persistent nausea I experienced with all 3 pregnancies stopped almost immediately which was huge - and now many years later I still feel such relief and I feel such fear about what is happening in the US and other places right now -- all women deserve a safe accessible inexpensive choice

it was relatively quick with some physical pain and major emotional pain even with supportive partner -- the nurses were empathetic but the doctors (could be my projection) seemed distant and cold

I had one daughter and a very busy and fulfilling career and life and I did not want to have more children -- it was in some ways a "selfish" decision but one that I am glad I was able to make and obtain a safe abortion without major financial or health costs

Did the illegality of your abortion affect your feelings?

I felt incredibly lucky -- as a college student before becoming a physician I had worked in a public hospital in Arequipa Peru where women were brought when they had unfinished "illegal" abortions -- they were denounced by the healthcare providers because it was illegal and often not given any pain medicines -- and they had many horrible long term consequences including infections, infertility, chronic pain and this continues https://radioambulante.org/en/audio-en/we-decide as well as we will see more of this in the US and beyond and I try to support groups like planned parenthood, the reproductive rights foundation, women on waves, women on web

How did other people react to your abortion?

In general with support and love although distinctly an issue especially from the physician who did 2 of these abortions that "3 is too many"

Ella

I was so scared but it was right and I know deep in my heart now.

Nastka

Spóźniał mi się tydzień okres, więc zrobiłam test wyszedł dodatnio, drugi i…

Ania Kijawska

Mam dziecko, dom, męża zdecydowałam się na aborcję.

R. P.

Força, meninas, que tudo se ajeita!

Angeli

I had an abortion

Jude

....because my pregnancy was unexpected and I did not want another child. My…

Abree

Medical abortion at 9wks 5days

Weronika

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Dina Wood

I had an abortion.It was illegal in the United States at the time, but I was…

Anne Jellinek

I had two abortions in my life: one when I was 21 and newly married and one 8…

C.

I had an abortion, I don't regret it but I can't get over it. The lack of…

Anastasia

Hola chicas. Bueno yo quedé embarazada a los 17 años. Recién empezaba mi…

Mickey

I was 22 turning 23 when I found out I was 4 weeks pregnant. The father and I…

Beth Smith

I was with my parter for three and a half years when i fell pregnant. I was…

Sabine Ryan

It's not as bad as you think. Please read my story!

Willem Velthoven

I had several abortions. And children too!

Jos

Era lo mejor