Ivana

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I had an abortion and never talked about it with anyone

2002 United States (born in Mexico)

I am surprised at how long I have carried these feelings with me. In part I think it's because I never grieved properly, was in denial and threw myself into intense activity, working and studying as if my life depended on it. I also never really got to talk about it because of shame or not wanting to make people feel uncomfortable. I am just starting to realize that I need to do the grieving process properly in order to be able to heal. I don't feel guilty though, and I know it was the right decision. If anything I just wish I had taken better care of my emotions and made sure I had some support. I'm glad to have realized this now and started my healing process.

I tried first with herbs, a very intense schedule drinking infusions every 4 hours, even through the night, for 2 weeks. I had cramping and other reactions, but was unsuccessful. So I decided to go to a clinic. By then I was 6 weeks pregnant.

I felt like I had no support in the world and didn't feel capable of being a parent on my own and give a child a good life. I didn't want to carry a baby to term and give it away in adoption because I thought that would be even more painful.

Did the illegality of your abortion affect your feelings?

Abortion in Mexico was illegal back then, not sure how it is now. But the illegality definitely made me feel scared. I decided to travel to the US in order to not have to deal with any of the back street horror stories you hear about.

How did other people react to your abortion?

My boyfriend at the time wanted us to never tell anyone, so I didn't. But this in time made it more painful. I am still afraid of people's reactions.

Dana Bronte

Muerte de un ángel.

Ma N

Y fue un proceso duro física y emocionalmente.

Naad

I had an abortion when I was 23 years old

Jennifer

Sin duda ha sido la decisión más difícil que he tomado en lo que llevo de vida

miriam la desesperacion

Con cytotex Y aun no se si fue lo mejor, pero era necesario

helenka

Mój chłopak mieszka w innym kraju. Na miesiąc przed wyjazdem do niego zaczęłam…

Ana Costa

Fiz o aborto com 7 semanas

Letícia

Terça, 08 de agosto de 2017, 8:00 h.
Foi esse dia que eu descobri que estava…

Nthati

It was a difficult but necessary choice to have made.

Wendy

Mi historia

Raqueli

misto de melancolia e alívio

Cela B

Você precisa fazer uma auto avaliação e ver o que é melhor pra você. Não…

Bee

I felt very guilty but relieved . I was way too young to be a mother.

Regina Powell

I had an abortion and I'm about to have another.

Mireya Mireya

Y no siento culpa, dolor o pena se que aún sigue siendo tabú en México por la…

Mulher

Uma escolha pra vida!

Aguaperdida Pam

Fue una decisión muy difícil pero estoy segura de que fue la mejor.
Un embarazo

JasminMisa

Abortar es tu elección!