Ivana

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I had an abortion and never talked about it with anyone

2002 United States (born in Mexico)

I am surprised at how long I have carried these feelings with me. In part I think it's because I never grieved properly, was in denial and threw myself into intense activity, working and studying as if my life depended on it. I also never really got to talk about it because of shame or not wanting to make people feel uncomfortable. I am just starting to realize that I need to do the grieving process properly in order to be able to heal. I don't feel guilty though, and I know it was the right decision. If anything I just wish I had taken better care of my emotions and made sure I had some support. I'm glad to have realized this now and started my healing process.

I tried first with herbs, a very intense schedule drinking infusions every 4 hours, even through the night, for 2 weeks. I had cramping and other reactions, but was unsuccessful. So I decided to go to a clinic. By then I was 6 weeks pregnant.

I felt like I had no support in the world and didn't feel capable of being a parent on my own and give a child a good life. I didn't want to carry a baby to term and give it away in adoption because I thought that would be even more painful.

Did the illegality of your abortion affect your feelings?

Abortion in Mexico was illegal back then, not sure how it is now. But the illegality definitely made me feel scared. I decided to travel to the US in order to not have to deal with any of the back street horror stories you hear about.

How did other people react to your abortion?

My boyfriend at the time wanted us to never tell anyone, so I didn't. But this in time made it more painful. I am still afraid of people's reactions.

Rachelle

I have had 3 abortions, one clinical, 2 medical. I do not regret those…

*De*

Fiz um aborto

Ronnie

because the time just wasn't right for me.

michel

i'm irish, i had an abortion while living in the netherlands.

Emmy Smith

It was the best decision of my life

Candice

My first pregnancy came quite unexpectedly. I was 17 and my boyfriend and I had…

julie

My life became changed

Bia Li

Me encontro na cama deitada nesse momento, após ter passado um dia inteiro no…

Miqueyla

No me arrepiento de lo que hice. Abortar suena demasiado frío , asi que mejor…

britta

Something that has carried with me ever since.

Ivka

Moja historia jest świeża, nie mam głębokich przemyśleń czy rad dla Was, czuję…

carolina

yo aborté y quiero contar mi experiencia...

Daniela Moraes

É fácil defender o aborto das outras. Difícil é decidir quando a gente precisa…

Kiara

Lo hice por amor al bebé, no me merecía como mamá.

Fabiola Moreno

I had an abortion when I was 16 years old.

Casey

Medical abortion, 19 years old

SouthernBelle

No Regrets.

Pippa

I had 2 abortiona in the space of a year...

was 20 nearrly 21 i hadnt had a…