Lora Fleming

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I had 3 abortions and as a medical student, I helped preform several abortions as well as seeing the results of "illegal" abortions

1989 United States

in looking back I did feel guilty but so relieved -- also the persistent nausea I experienced with all 3 pregnancies stopped almost immediately which was huge - and now many years later I still feel such relief and I feel such fear about what is happening in the US and other places right now -- all women deserve a safe accessible inexpensive choice

it was relatively quick with some physical pain and major emotional pain even with supportive partner -- the nurses were empathetic but the doctors (could be my projection) seemed distant and cold

I had one daughter and a very busy and fulfilling career and life and I did not want to have more children -- it was in some ways a "selfish" decision but one that I am glad I was able to make and obtain a safe abortion without major financial or health costs

Did the illegality of your abortion affect your feelings?

I felt incredibly lucky -- as a college student before becoming a physician I had worked in a public hospital in Arequipa Peru where women were brought when they had unfinished "illegal" abortions -- they were denounced by the healthcare providers because it was illegal and often not given any pain medicines -- and they had many horrible long term consequences including infections, infertility, chronic pain and this continues https://radioambulante.org/en/audio-en/we-decide as well as we will see more of this in the US and beyond and I try to support groups like planned parenthood, the reproductive rights foundation, women on waves, women on web

How did other people react to your abortion?

In general with support and love although distinctly an issue especially from the physician who did 2 of these abortions that "3 is too many"

Ella

I was so scared but it was right and I know deep in my heart now.

Riki

We're not monsters!

Susy

Yo interrumpí mi embarazo...

Daniela

Y lo volvería a hacer, habia terminado con mi ex pololoy el era super…

Charlotte Sigler

I had an abortion

Fernanda

Yo aborté y soy una chica libre

keira

Chcę mieć kontrolę. Zrobiłam to i NIE ŻAŁUJĘ.

Wzięłam pierwszą tabletkę, czułam…

Julieta Iovaldi Curutchet

Decidí desde el principio no compartir esa experiencia con la pareja de ese…

Van Nessa

I had an abortion.

Teaser

Nunca hubiera querido estar en esa encrucijada

Lily

I had an abortion and I'm not ashamed

Regina Kunst

Aku memutuskan untuk aborsi karena pada saat itu, aku masih menempuh S3 dan…

Joice

Já é difícil criar 2 filhos, não conseguiria lidar com um terceiro..

Młoda Dama

Postanowiłam opisać swój przypadek ponieważ sama podczas dokonywania aborcji…

Jillybean

Women's bodies belong only to us. Men, families, society, have no right to…

Jess

I had two...it was not a hard decision, and I'm glad I did it. Now, I'm a…

Mabel

Mabel

Laura

I had a surgical abortion at Planned Parenthood in Beacon, NY at 4 weeks.