Lora Fleming

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I had 3 abortions and as a medical student, I helped preform several abortions as well as seeing the results of "illegal" abortions

1989 United States

in looking back I did feel guilty but so relieved -- also the persistent nausea I experienced with all 3 pregnancies stopped almost immediately which was huge - and now many years later I still feel such relief and I feel such fear about what is happening in the US and other places right now -- all women deserve a safe accessible inexpensive choice

it was relatively quick with some physical pain and major emotional pain even with supportive partner -- the nurses were empathetic but the doctors (could be my projection) seemed distant and cold

I had one daughter and a very busy and fulfilling career and life and I did not want to have more children -- it was in some ways a "selfish" decision but one that I am glad I was able to make and obtain a safe abortion without major financial or health costs

Did the illegality of your abortion affect your feelings?

I felt incredibly lucky -- as a college student before becoming a physician I had worked in a public hospital in Arequipa Peru where women were brought when they had unfinished "illegal" abortions -- they were denounced by the healthcare providers because it was illegal and often not given any pain medicines -- and they had many horrible long term consequences including infections, infertility, chronic pain and this continues https://radioambulante.org/en/audio-en/we-decide as well as we will see more of this in the US and beyond and I try to support groups like planned parenthood, the reproductive rights foundation, women on waves, women on web

How did other people react to your abortion?

In general with support and love although distinctly an issue especially from the physician who did 2 of these abortions that "3 is too many"

Lucyna L

I had an abortion

Jess

This is something that was necessary for me but most definitely the hardest and…

Lucero Lucero

Creo que por fin tuve control de mi vida.

Kah

Decisões difíceis exigem coragem.

Warrior

Sinceramente eu não imaginei que passaria por isso esse ano. Mas sabia que um…

Carol .

Acabei de começar minha carreira, não quero ser mãe nesse momento

S.M.J

Nunca imaginei que precisaria passar por isso

SouthernBelle

No Regrets.

Sierra

I had to get an abortion after my Skyla IUD was placed improperly or slipped. I…

josie

I had an abortion and now feel I have 10kgs off my shoulders alone, a little…

Rednwhite

Most difficult choice I’ve ever made

sogoodtobebad stassia

Dziewczyny ! nie bójcie się ! nie taki diabeł straszny jak go malują. Jeżeli…

EV

I had an abortion and I do not regret my choice. It is very important to me to…

Ella

I was so scared but it was right and I know deep in my heart now.

Bryann Turner

It was the right decision for me at this time.

Brenda

Having an abortion was the right thing for my family.

Francine

Tomei anticoncepcional por uns 4 seguintes, no começo do ano comecei a sentir…

Anastasia

Hola chicas. Bueno yo quedé embarazada a los 17 años. Recién empezaba mi…

Sam

I was 21 years old. I actually had just stopped using Birth Control due to the…