Lora Fleming

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I had 3 abortions and as a medical student, I helped preform several abortions as well as seeing the results of "illegal" abortions

1989 United States

in looking back I did feel guilty but so relieved -- also the persistent nausea I experienced with all 3 pregnancies stopped almost immediately which was huge - and now many years later I still feel such relief and I feel such fear about what is happening in the US and other places right now -- all women deserve a safe accessible inexpensive choice

it was relatively quick with some physical pain and major emotional pain even with supportive partner -- the nurses were empathetic but the doctors (could be my projection) seemed distant and cold

I had one daughter and a very busy and fulfilling career and life and I did not want to have more children -- it was in some ways a "selfish" decision but one that I am glad I was able to make and obtain a safe abortion without major financial or health costs

Did the illegality of your abortion affect your feelings?

I felt incredibly lucky -- as a college student before becoming a physician I had worked in a public hospital in Arequipa Peru where women were brought when they had unfinished "illegal" abortions -- they were denounced by the healthcare providers because it was illegal and often not given any pain medicines -- and they had many horrible long term consequences including infections, infertility, chronic pain and this continues https://radioambulante.org/en/audio-en/we-decide as well as we will see more of this in the US and beyond and I try to support groups like planned parenthood, the reproductive rights foundation, women on waves, women on web

How did other people react to your abortion?

In general with support and love although distinctly an issue especially from the physician who did 2 of these abortions that "3 is too many"

Bi

Lembro que quando minha menstruação atrasou no primeiro dia eu já senti que…

Jess

I was let down by birth control and had two abortions. During my second…

Tlhogi Tshegofaso

I did it when I was 4 weeks. Its was tremendously painful and horrific. The…

Tannicola Nkata

I was brutally rapped during my time of imprisonment in my native country. I…

Maria

Eu havia acabado de sair de um relacionamento quase passional. Tive uma recaída…

Natália Sampaio

Abortei sim! Não foi fácil. foi um dos momentos mas difíceis da minha vida, mas…

alessandra

I had an abortion

Joice

Já é difícil criar 2 filhos, não conseguiria lidar com um terceiro..

Montse

"Un acto amoroso"

Sofia Ignatius

I had abortion n all went well

Anna Cavalcante

Olá, o meu nome é Anna, eu fiquei grávida aos 18 anos, e devido à minha idade

Sofia S

Oi meninas! Meu nome é Sofia, tenho 20 anos e em novembro de 2019 descobri que…

Natasha

I had come off the contraceptive pill as it had me feeling un well, we thought…

Nthati

It was a difficult but necessary choice to have made.

Liz Hoffman

Passando pra deixar meu relato, pois sei que vai ajudar muitas mulheres que…

Beth

No estaba 10% segura pero lo hice,
Yo aborte.

Dolores Feffer

I had two.

No woman should ever have to justify a dessicion on her own body.