Lora Fleming

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I had 3 abortions and as a medical student, I helped preform several abortions as well as seeing the results of "illegal" abortions

1989 United States

in looking back I did feel guilty but so relieved -- also the persistent nausea I experienced with all 3 pregnancies stopped almost immediately which was huge - and now many years later I still feel such relief and I feel such fear about what is happening in the US and other places right now -- all women deserve a safe accessible inexpensive choice

it was relatively quick with some physical pain and major emotional pain even with supportive partner -- the nurses were empathetic but the doctors (could be my projection) seemed distant and cold

I had one daughter and a very busy and fulfilling career and life and I did not want to have more children -- it was in some ways a "selfish" decision but one that I am glad I was able to make and obtain a safe abortion without major financial or health costs

Did the illegality of your abortion affect your feelings?

I felt incredibly lucky -- as a college student before becoming a physician I had worked in a public hospital in Arequipa Peru where women were brought when they had unfinished "illegal" abortions -- they were denounced by the healthcare providers because it was illegal and often not given any pain medicines -- and they had many horrible long term consequences including infections, infertility, chronic pain and this continues https://radioambulante.org/en/audio-en/we-decide as well as we will see more of this in the US and beyond and I try to support groups like planned parenthood, the reproductive rights foundation, women on waves, women on web

How did other people react to your abortion?

In general with support and love although distinctly an issue especially from the physician who did 2 of these abortions that "3 is too many"

Fabiola Moreno

I had an abortion when I was 16 years old.

Rike

It was a birthday

Nonaka

A exatamente um mês atrás realizei o aborto, sou residente do Japão, apesar de…

Urszula

Po porodzie miałam postanowienie, wiecej dzieci nie chcę, mój ginekolog dobrze…

Aby

I felt it was accapted to have an abortion

Naad

I had an abortion when I was 23 years old

jennelyn

I had an abortion

Samanta

Uma escolha difícil.

Iolanda

Ser solidária com quem abortou e defender a descriminalização jamais me fez…

Sol

Macierzyństwo nie jest dla każdego

Mam już 30 lat, męża, stabilną sytuację…

Gaby

No me arrepiento

C.

I had an abortion, I don't regret it but I can't get over it. The lack of…

Tatá

Fiz um aborto com 8 semanas. Eu me envolvi com um colega de trabalho, por um…

Anon

I had an abortion at 15...and my life is still going well

Maria

La decisión es tuya enlo que sigue te acompañamos

Juliette

j´ai avorté.

Bia Li

Me encontro na cama deitada nesse momento, após ter passado um dia inteiro no…

LOLO

Made me who I am today

Newyor7891

I had an abortion