Lora Fleming

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I had 3 abortions and as a medical student, I helped preform several abortions as well as seeing the results of "illegal" abortions

1989 United States

in looking back I did feel guilty but so relieved -- also the persistent nausea I experienced with all 3 pregnancies stopped almost immediately which was huge - and now many years later I still feel such relief and I feel such fear about what is happening in the US and other places right now -- all women deserve a safe accessible inexpensive choice

it was relatively quick with some physical pain and major emotional pain even with supportive partner -- the nurses were empathetic but the doctors (could be my projection) seemed distant and cold

I had one daughter and a very busy and fulfilling career and life and I did not want to have more children -- it was in some ways a "selfish" decision but one that I am glad I was able to make and obtain a safe abortion without major financial or health costs

Did the illegality of your abortion affect your feelings?

I felt incredibly lucky -- as a college student before becoming a physician I had worked in a public hospital in Arequipa Peru where women were brought when they had unfinished "illegal" abortions -- they were denounced by the healthcare providers because it was illegal and often not given any pain medicines -- and they had many horrible long term consequences including infections, infertility, chronic pain and this continues https://radioambulante.org/en/audio-en/we-decide as well as we will see more of this in the US and beyond and I try to support groups like planned parenthood, the reproductive rights foundation, women on waves, women on web

How did other people react to your abortion?

In general with support and love although distinctly an issue especially from the physician who did 2 of these abortions that "3 is too many"

Jora

Fiz um aborto e o momento foi muito delicado. Primeiro que fui procurar os…

Na

Pois tenho direito de escolher o que é melhor pra mim! O importante é não se…

Julieta Iovaldi Curutchet

Decidí desde el principio no compartir esa experiencia con la pareja de ese…

Cristina

No fue bueno pero fue lo mejor.

Sylvie Shene

A Life-Saving Experience

Suzanne

I had an abortion

Tina

I had an abortion when I was 15 years old. After my abortion, I went to college

Masha

This isn't my first abortion.... :'( My second one I am currently scheduled for.

Val

Am I a horrible person

Johanna P.

Era lo que tenia que hacer

Patricia Bronstein

I was married and had known since an early age that I did not want to be a…

Jennifer

At the age of 15 I was told that I would likely never be able to get pregnant…

alessandra

I had an abortion

gise

esta vez decido yo!

Birdy <3

MY BODY, MY CHOICE!

Daniela

Tengo una hija de 4 años, pero aun asi yo aborte este año.

Claire

My first abortion took place when I was 19 and the second, when I was 26. I…

Regina Powell

I had an abortion and I'm about to have another.

ech echhhhhh

Aborcji dokonałam całkiem niedawno, ledwo miesiąc temu. Mam 19 lat i mieszkam w…