Gemma

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The best decision for me.

2015 United Kingdom

I am thankful to live in a country where I can exercise rights & choice over my body. I was in a position where I could not only decide to have an abortion, but it was actually accessible to me too.

Horrendous - my partner and I have been together since June 2014. I had been using The Copper IUD initially, however, it caused me numerous problems so I removed it. I decided to start using Natural Family Planning, for two reasons: to prevent pregnancy (we were both STI tested) and; to track my cycle (I was being investigated for Endometriosis). However, over a year in, I miss calculated and I ended up getting pregnant. My partner commented on my period being late, so a couple of days later I tested. It was positive. I was pregnant. I went to work. Overwhelmed. Not believing it. I took another test at lunch time. Still positive. Still pregnant. I went to the doctor, I tested again. Still positive. Still pregnant. I booked a termination there and then. I went home and told my partner. "I'm pregnant. I've booked an appointment at the clinic". The scan confirmed I was 4 weeks pregnant. I booked a medical for a week later. I went in for the first tablet and two days later for the second set. "It'll be like a heavy period" they said, "go home and rest they said." I went home. I rested. 36 hours later I was fitting on the floor, diarrhea, vomitting, pain, bleeding. An ambulance was called and I was taken into accident and emergency. I was given gas & air, codeine, diclofenac, morphine and a paracetamol & fluid drip. I was screaming in pain. Left on a gynae ward with (visibly) pregnant women - who assumed I was having a miscarriage - I had to suffer in pain. Scared, lonely and like I was to blame. The termination hadn't worked, and I had to wait for 3 days nil by mouth waiting for a D&C. I was eventually taken into surgery and the nightmare was neasr to ending. I woke up from my surgery, feeling lighter. Both physically & emotionally. I was fucking elated. I wanted to go home that night, be away from the judgement I felt and be in my own bed. I do not regret my abortion. Having my abortion was the absolute best decision for me. My partner. And the foteus. There is no way we are in a position to continue a pregnancy. I in no way regret my abortion, I regret the unfortunate circumstances in which it happened though.

How did other people react to your abortion?

Supportive

Yasmin Silva

Enfim, vou contar minha história com muita paz no meu coração e na minha vida.

SouthernBelle

No Regrets.

Katie

Nie klasyczna wpadka. Brane pigulki nie zadzialaly. Za duzy miks z innymi…

Marcela

Es más una historia de amor, que de un aborto pero posiblemente en algo te…

Maria

Sou dona de mim.

Anne Jellinek

I had two abortions in my life: one when I was 21 and newly married and one 8…

ROCÍO

Lo logré....estoy tranquila

Liz

Eu tinha 22 anos, minha menstruação atrasou e meus seios estavam muito inchados.

justin ..

NIGDY NIE MÓW NIGDY! ..kiedyś powiedziałam sobie, że aborcja nigdy nie będzie…

Maria F M B

Yo aborte: Hoy en dia es difícil enfrentar la sanción moral que existe en…

Emily

It isn't and shouldn't be as taboo as it is made out to be.

Ana Costa

Fiz o aborto com 7 semanas

Agnieszka

Miałam aborcję - nie żałuję

Sofia Ignatius

I had abortion n all went well