Kidda Sinsee

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And I was afraid at first...

2019 Zuid Korea

It was hard. It was really really hard. Emotionally hard and physically hard. But I knew that from the second I got pregnant, this was what I had to do. I believe an abortion can be done nobly, it takes a lot of courage and strength for women who have children and women who confront themselves with abortion, however I am not trying to equate them. Pregnancy is a beautiful thing but within time and choice. I have never held so highly, that right, before this experience.

I am simply not ready. My partner simply is not ready. We were foolish to have not been using contraceptives. And our foolishness did end the beginning of something that could have become a someone. Perhaps this is not the case for others, but this was how I felt and I just want to be honest about it. The thought heaved in my chest, making it hard to breathe sometimes. But I know deeply, and truly, I made the right decision.

Had de illegaliteit van je abortus invloed op je gevoelens?

It made me feel stuck at most. Because back home, I could have gotten this done quickly... no shame involved... no second thoughts .... no need for reflection or further investigation of what it means to have an abortion. So I would have evaded this doubt or this thing I had considered dark. However I'm grateful for this waiting period, I confronted myself, my fears, my dreams, the reality of this position. Being in Seoul was difficult though. I read online that in certain clinics doctors were understanding to women who chose abortion, nonetheless I was still nervous to see them. When my partner and I went to get an ultrasound, we just pretended that we were going have the baby. I was afraid of the unlikely event that we would be reported, but mostly I was afraid of the doctor's judgement on me. I knew it was rooted in my head, looking back, I was the only one judging myself.

Hoe reageerden andere mensen op je abortus?

I didn't tell anybody. Especially my father. I felt like telling my dad was the last thing I would do in the choices I had, and they were very limited. I know that he would have been supportive, irrational and maybe mad at first. Yet the idea of telling him gave me feelings of shame and humiliation, I still don't understand why. However my boyfriend was there with me and I told my best friend, she's a nurse. And there care for me was everything.

Aguacate

Como abortar en una ciudad donde es penalizado el aborto las primeras semanas.

aileen

I have had two abortions

Valentina

Le pedí que me dejara...

Me había embarazado antes y había abortado, desde ese…

Maggie

Desculpa não te ter dado uma chance de sobreviveres, mas fiquei demasiado…

Amy Martinez

I had an abortion

Gemma

The best decision for me.

Sara

Tome la decisión ya que anteriormente (a los 15 años) ya había tenido un…

Samanta

Uma escolha difícil.

Jezzi

Yo aborte con cinco semanas de gestación.... En el mi corazón siempre vivirás.

Fernanda

Descobri que estava grávida no dia do meu aniversário, na época, sem nenhum…

Macarena

Yo aborte , con oxapros en Buenos Aires tengo 24 años

Jedna z Tysiecy

Kiedy nie chcesz dziecka, i wiesz, ze tak musi byc.

gdy twoj ex partner z…

carolina

Interrumpi mi embarazo de un mes y medio

baby t

i had 2 abortions first 1 when i was 16 i knew i was ready to have a child or…

Mariela

Aunque me cueste decirlo, yo aborté

Mickey

I was 22 turning 23 when I found out I was 4 weeks pregnant. The father and I…

Daniela

Tengo una hija de 4 años, pero aun asi yo aborte este año.

Johanna P.

Era lo que tenia que hacer