Eléonore Delmas

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I had an abortion

1994 France (ipinanganak sa France)

Glad, relieved, focused, back into my body, empowered, sharp

I had 2 abortions. The first was surgery, I was underage, and thus accompanied by my mother (and boyfriend). The second was by RU486, I was 19 and by myself. Surgery in itself can be scary, but this was the mildest operation I ever had (I am however, allergic to morphine now). As for the induced miscarriage, ya feel it, but that's also a good thing, listening to your body - which is obviously what I'd failed to do before. You need some time off to be nice to yourself.

I was 17 and 19 when I had my abortions. My life was spinning out of control in all possible ways (atrocious family relationships, feelings of abandonment, alienation, panic attacks, self-destructive boyfriends, poor hygiene and care of myself, school ditching...). I got pregnant the first time I had sex, and I knew it right away. As well as knowing right away I WOULD NOT HAVE THAT CHILD. Things snapped into focus as I finally took a hold of ME, and reclaimed my body - for a while. The second time... let's say I still hadn't fixed my life (and could not take contraception for health reasons, + am allergic to latex and very very fertile). I know what it's like to not be ready for a child. I could never screw up her/his life alongside mine so royally. Never, ever, ever. Many people have tried to convince me that I would eventually have a depression, that I was inhibiting my feelings. It's been 13 years now, and the only thing I feel when I think about my 2 abortions is joyous relief and gratefulness.

Ang iligalidad ng iyong pagpapalaglag ay nakakaapekto sa iyong damdamin?

It was legal both times. I was relieved.

Ano ang reaksyon ng ibang tao sa iyong pagpapalaglag?

I didn't ask for validation, as there was no doubt in my mind. My then boyfriend moaned about it the 2 years we stayed together. My friends asked if I needed anything. My mother (I had to tell her the 1st time since I was 17) remains absolutely mute about it, which is refreshing. A woman stopped me outside of Family Planning and asked if I was "going to kill (my) baby". I usually have a slow sense of repartee, but I slammed her against a wall and said I'd start with killing her. She went ashen and my boyfriend had to pry my fingers off her. This woman represents/ed everything that is wrong with the world.

Candice

My first pregnancy came quite unexpectedly. I was 17 and my boyfriend and I had…

Angel

Nunca me senti tão sozinha

Weronika

Dzien w którym potwierdzila sie moja ciaza był jak wyrocznia... Mam dużo swoich…

N.

Historia właściwie była dość typowa, sex, pęknięta gumka, spóźniający się okres

yvette

I had an abortion in the US a few years ago. I think it is important for all of…

Luka

Hice lo mejor que pude, estando bajo toda la presión del mundo.

Samantha

Grow Yourself, Before You Grow a Baby.

Agnieszka

Miałam aborcję - nie żałuję

lolita

fui libre respecto esta decision

Sin GLORIA pero sin PENA

Yo soy dueña de mi jardín,YO RIEGO,YO CORTO.

Allison

My abortion was 100% my choice.

Zoe

I had an abortion. It was a stressful time, I am glad it is all behind me. My…

Emily

It isn't and shouldn't be as taboo as it is made out to be.

Carolina

Estou numa relação estável há 4 anos e há 2 parei de usar anticoncepcional…

EV

I had an abortion and I do not regret my choice. It is very important to me to…

Brenda

Having an abortion was the right thing for my family.

Maria Madalena

Fiz um aborto e me sinto muito, muito aliviada!!!

LOLO

Made me who I am today