Bobbie

The first time I was too young the next I was old enough to know I had no right to bring a child into nothing with no future.

1983 Canada

rouw onverantwoordelijk gevangen egoistisch opgelucht verdoofd overtuigd verward stom beschaamd schuldig angstig verdrietig

I often think about those early pregnancies and I know that there was no way I would have been able to do everything to keep those children safe and fed and give them an opportunity to have a bright future. Even after waiting until I finished college it was a struggle to raise my baby girl. But at least we had a chance. I am so great full tohave a choice ! Now we need to help the next generation have a choice AND not feel as dirty and bad as I felt as a 13 year old girl handing out Halloween candy to beautiful little children as I soaked up the blood from the choice that was made for me. I wish that all girls knew there bodies belong to themselves!

in een kliniek of ziekenhuis met chirurgie (zuigcurretage)

The first time I was 13 years old. I had been sexually abused since I was a small child I was never taught that I a right to decide what was done to my body. My family secrets were generations deep. I didn't choose to have an abortion I let myself float along and it became another thing that was done TO me. When I was 18 I had a couple of years of counselling and having imancipated myself from my family at 15 I was shouting out those dark secrets and learning my body was not for others to use or a tool to use to prove I loved someone. When I learned I was pregnant I had almost finished high school and knew that having a child was a great and permanent decision and instead of letting myself be the victim I stood up and made a choice. My choice was to allow myself to grow up and not bring another child to grow up poor uneducated. I knew I wasn't strong enough to protect and give this child a happy safe life and I knew I wasn't strong enough to give the child up. I couldn't be the mother this baby deserved I was barely feeding myself. I loved the child in my belly enough to let it go. I loved myself enough to let myself heal and to choose.

financiele situatie mijn opleiding mijn leeftijd (te jong of te oud) geestelijke gezondheid

Hoe reageerden andere mensen op je abortus?

As Many people have condemned as supported me. Just because I had the legal right to an abortion does not mean people accept and support people who make such a gut wrenching decision.

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