K.

2018 Germany

relieved

After the abortion I was just relived and I felt empowered - it was about my life. Before the abortion I was very afraid, I felt irresponsible, a little stuipid and trapped. The latter was the worst.

with medicines

The abortion itself was physically very painful for me, but that didn't matter at all (giving birth is probably worse). However, the entire process with obligatory consulation was awful. Although in Germany the law requires, that the obligatory consulation has to be objective, my consultant was a strict Christian who tried to convince me and my partner to have a baby. She was manipulative and had a very strange image of women in general. Although the clinic staff was not as extreme as her, they were very disrespectful. The entire process was really bad for me and I cried a lot - not because of the abortion, but because of the people and how they dealt with me.

my personal reasons for not wanting a child

I generally do not plan to have kids, being a mother is not for me

Benze ntoni abanye abantu xa ukhupha isisu?

I didn't tell my family, since they are very conservative. However, all my friends at least accepted it, although some of them were a little shocked. I was very open about it, because even in Germany I feel that there is a huge stigma about it. Although I am a defender of radical reproductive justice, I felt affected by that stigma, so I told my friends only AFTER the abortion.

legal

no religion