Eléonore Delmas

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I had an abortion

1994 Fransa (doğmak France)

Glad, relieved, focused, back into my body, empowered, sharp

I had 2 abortions. The first was surgery, I was underage, and thus accompanied by my mother (and boyfriend). The second was by RU486, I was 19 and by myself. Surgery in itself can be scary, but this was the mildest operation I ever had (I am however, allergic to morphine now). As for the induced miscarriage, ya feel it, but that's also a good thing, listening to your body - which is obviously what I'd failed to do before. You need some time off to be nice to yourself.

I was 17 and 19 when I had my abortions. My life was spinning out of control in all possible ways (atrocious family relationships, feelings of abandonment, alienation, panic attacks, self-destructive boyfriends, poor hygiene and care of myself, school ditching...). I got pregnant the first time I had sex, and I knew it right away. As well as knowing right away I WOULD NOT HAVE THAT CHILD. Things snapped into focus as I finally took a hold of ME, and reclaimed my body - for a while. The second time... let's say I still hadn't fixed my life (and could not take contraception for health reasons, + am allergic to latex and very very fertile). I know what it's like to not be ready for a child. I could never screw up her/his life alongside mine so royally. Never, ever, ever. Many people have tried to convince me that I would eventually have a depression, that I was inhibiting my feelings. It's been 13 years now, and the only thing I feel when I think about my 2 abortions is joyous relief and gratefulness.

Kürtajınızın yasa dışı olması duygularınızı etkiledi mi?

It was legal both times. I was relieved.

Diğer insanlar kürtajınıza nasıl tepki gösterdi?

I didn't ask for validation, as there was no doubt in my mind. My then boyfriend moaned about it the 2 years we stayed together. My friends asked if I needed anything. My mother (I had to tell her the 1st time since I was 17) remains absolutely mute about it, which is refreshing. A woman stopped me outside of Family Planning and asked if I was "going to kill (my) baby". I usually have a slow sense of repartee, but I slammed her against a wall and said I'd start with killing her. She went ashen and my boyfriend had to pry my fingers off her. This woman represents/ed everything that is wrong with the world.

Irina

Cuando miro para atrás, más se afirma la certeza de que hice lo correcto.

Joice

Já é difícil criar 2 filhos, não conseguiria lidar com um terceiro..

Aguacate

Como abortar en una ciudad donde es penalizado el aborto las primeras semanas.

Jennifer

Sin duda ha sido la decisión más difícil que he tomado en lo que llevo de vida

Ammy

Yo he estado en las dos caras de la moneda, cuando tenia 16 años quede…

Tamsen Reid

I had an abortion because I did not want to be pregnant. I wasn't ready to…

Ronnie

because the time just wasn't right for me.

Andrea

It's your choice.

Abril Violeta

cuando tenía 24 años, recién terminaba la licenciatura, estaba desempleada, en…

Ana Lu

e vida nova pela frente...

Andy

Decidí sobre mi futuro.

Paola XD

Yo aborté en Chile, donde es ilegal. Tengo 29 años. Lo hice con medicamentos, a…

Monoirmarie

Yo aborté porque es mi derecho

squaine123

Not in this alone

Samanta

Uma escolha difícil.

Anon

I had an abortion at 15...and my life is still going well

Constanza Arely

El ser madre debe ser una decisión, una de las mejores experiencias que vive…

Raquel Monterrey

I spoke with the spirit of my child before my abortion. That spirit who was…

Sarah

Because I could barely provide for the child I had already.