Eléonore Delmas

Compartilhe a sua história

I had an abortion

1994 França (nascido em France)

Glad, relieved, focused, back into my body, empowered, sharp

I had 2 abortions. The first was surgery, I was underage, and thus accompanied by my mother (and boyfriend). The second was by RU486, I was 19 and by myself. Surgery in itself can be scary, but this was the mildest operation I ever had (I am however, allergic to morphine now). As for the induced miscarriage, ya feel it, but that's also a good thing, listening to your body - which is obviously what I'd failed to do before. You need some time off to be nice to yourself.

I was 17 and 19 when I had my abortions. My life was spinning out of control in all possible ways (atrocious family relationships, feelings of abandonment, alienation, panic attacks, self-destructive boyfriends, poor hygiene and care of myself, school ditching...). I got pregnant the first time I had sex, and I knew it right away. As well as knowing right away I WOULD NOT HAVE THAT CHILD. Things snapped into focus as I finally took a hold of ME, and reclaimed my body - for a while. The second time... let's say I still hadn't fixed my life (and could not take contraception for health reasons, + am allergic to latex and very very fertile). I know what it's like to not be ready for a child. I could never screw up her/his life alongside mine so royally. Never, ever, ever. Many people have tried to convince me that I would eventually have a depression, that I was inhibiting my feelings. It's been 13 years now, and the only thing I feel when I think about my 2 abortions is joyous relief and gratefulness.

A ilegalidade de seu aborto afetou seus sentimentos?

It was legal both times. I was relieved.

Como as outras pessoas reagiram ao seu aborto?

I didn't ask for validation, as there was no doubt in my mind. My then boyfriend moaned about it the 2 years we stayed together. My friends asked if I needed anything. My mother (I had to tell her the 1st time since I was 17) remains absolutely mute about it, which is refreshing. A woman stopped me outside of Family Planning and asked if I was "going to kill (my) baby". I usually have a slow sense of repartee, but I slammed her against a wall and said I'd start with killing her. She went ashen and my boyfriend had to pry my fingers off her. This woman represents/ed everything that is wrong with the world.

MS

ABORTAR ESTÁ BIEN

britta

Something that has carried with me ever since.

Warrior

Sinceramente eu não imaginei que passaria por isso esse ano. Mas sabia que um…

Dulcinea Vázquez

Las pastillas tardaron un poco mas de 3 horas en hacer efecto, no presenté…

wiki Kosik

Korzystaj z życia..Na dziecko, przyjdzie odpowiedni czas..

ana maria Duque

I had an abortion but this wasn't easy I was very afraid, but i never regret…

Lu

Unexpected feelings

Jane

I had 2 abortions

chiquiss67

Hola.

Tengo 22 años y aborte en febrero de este año. Me di cuenta de que estaba…

Ana Costa

Fiz o aborto com 7 semanas

Alejandra

Mi decisión

Emmy Smith

It was the best decision of my life

Liz Price

I had an abortion

Catalina

El Misotrol salvó mi vida

Andrea

It's your choice.

Marina

Nie będę opisywała o tym jak to się stało, że się dowiedziałam, każdy ma na to…

Agnieszka

Miałam aborcję - nie żałuję

A.

Pomimo zastosowanej antykoncepcji, zaszłam w ciążę. Brałam tabletki.