Zoe

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I had an abortion. It was a stressful time, I am glad it is all behind me. My friends were very supportive. I am left angry with society that forces women to feel shame, pain, and guilt, forces them into secrecy. How dare they torture women in such a way.

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I wish there were a few more positive emotions to choose from. I feel mostly that I was forced to feel a certain way by internalised abortion stigma, an this leaves me so angry. After a little time I am was able to rid myself completely of all the negative, self blame feelings. I am now very open about my abortion, in that I would not lie about it or hide it were it to arise in a conversation in some way. Of course, sometimes, even with some friends, there is fear on how they will react, and annoyance that maybe, probably, internally they do judge you a little.

It was quick. I had to go to the hospital to get the pill that induces menstruation. I had to be there until the foetus came out and the nurse checked it. I understand that it is to make sure everything went well, but I was a horrible experience to go to the hospital and stay there in the cold room, bleeding incredibly, and then get home again weakened. I want abortion pills to be legally available for use at home. Give women some credit!

I just could not.

A ilegalidade de seu aborto afetou seus sentimentos?

It is only legal in my country until the 12th week, which I think is too short. The stigma is so strong that it forced me into secrecy, and only now that I am a little older (I was 20 at the time) I have absolutely no weird thoughts and am completely at peace with my experience. Well, not at peace, because I am left with this anger I described before. Stigmatisation is on the rise again, where right wing extremist control most media and propagate a message that equals abortion with murder, genocide and presents women as unreflected, one dimensional infants, mentally too limited to think about their actions. How dare they.

Como as outras pessoas reagiram ao seu aborto?

I only told one friend and my partner at the time, I was too ashamed to tell my family or close friends. This need to lie and isolation, disgusts me, why does it have to be this way? I only told most of them, my sister, and all close friends and new partner about it a year later. I was met with so much love and admiration for my strenght. I wish I had told them as soon as I knew I was pregnant, it would have helped me. But the fear to be judged was too deeply hammered into me.

Renata

Calma, eu sei seu desespero. VAI DAR TUDO CERTO! #FORÇA

Ono Kin

Really worked, except for suspicion from customs

Gaby

No me arrepiento

Angela

Pregnancy and abortion - what a trip.

Estefanía

Si se lo pudiera decir a alguien sin que me juzgue no me sentiría así

Maria

La decisión más difícil de mi vida

Maru

Se puede acceder de forma legal

NICOL

No tenia mas opciones

Kiara

Lo hice por amor al bebé, no me merecía como mamá.

Liz

Eu tinha 22 anos, minha menstruação atrasou e meus seios estavam muito inchados.

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Voltei a ser livre!!

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Never had any regrets

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