Ewa Izabela

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I am pro-choice

2005 United Kingdom (born in Poland)

It was a hard and extremely difficult decision, and I had a lot of doubts, trying to find my way. Today I’m sure that was a right decision, and I don’t regret it, but I regret deeply that I had to loose a child. I was sad and crying for long time – as we are sad after someone loved died or left for ever, and we cannot help it. But I was right deciding that I wasn’t able to have a child at that moment.

I had my abortion in London, at Marie Stopes, where everyone was very professional, and supporting. My pregnancy was very early – 3,5 weeks, so I had just the pills. Normally the women have strong cramps and a lot of blood after them, but I didn’t. I was extremely stressed because of whole situation, and the night before taking pills I had cramps, and a lot of blood, and I thought it was a kind of miscarriage. So after pills nothing happened, no cramps, and almost no blood.

I had a boyfriend, who told me he was infertile. We were planning to adopt children in the future. I don’t know if he really meant that, or was just lying, but obviously he wasn’t infertile. When I told him I’m pregnant, he said he wasn’t going to stay with me, and he wanted me to abort, he left and stopped contacting me or answering my calls. I was shocked and destroyed by the offensive and extremely cruel way of treating me by someone, who before pretended to love me. I went through all possibilities to see if I’m able to have this child, and I decided that I’m not strong enough on my own (I don’t have supportive family, and my economical situation was quite bad).

Did the illegality of your abortion affect your feelings?

I am Polish, and for last 3 years I have been living and working in UK, where the abortion is legal. It was a great stress to face the abortion situation on my own (no support from the partner or family), and if I had an additional pressure from the legal order, I would feel in a lot bigger oppression. It was a great help and relief for me – while undertaking my decision – to know that I have a choice and don’t have to have a baby, and I was lucky not to face this situation in Poland, where the abortion is still illegal.

How did other people react to your abortion?

I was quite on my own, and had only one friend, who knew and supported me, which I'm very grateful for.

Daisy

Miałam aborcję. I nie jestem z tego dumna.
19 lutego 2020 roku zrobiłam test…

Maree

It was sad but necessary

Kera

I'm 18 years of age.My abortion was very hard on me due to religious reasons.It…

Sofia Ignatius

I had abortion n all went well

Leonor Leonor

Mi madre quería nietos... Yo solo quiero dejar de recriminarme.

Melina

Yo aborte con oxaprost

Naad

I had an abortion when I was 23 years old

Cindy Rios

Yo aborte porque no estaba en el momento adecuado para tener un hijo, mi madre…

Zoe

I had an abortion. It was a stressful time, I am glad it is all behind me. My…

Sunny

To była moja druga aborcja. Jak się okazało, była dużo łatwiejsza, z…

Kamila

Miałam aborcję. I choć żyję w ponoć "cywilizowanym" kraju to aborcja jest…

Dana Bronte

Muerte de un ángel.

Luciana

Hace exactamente 1 año y dos meses. Arranque el 2017 con todo. Supe el día que…

Sram Mie

I had an abortion last year and I`m pregnant again. When a friend of mine once…

Katarzyna

Nie mogłam mieć dziecka z kilku powodów: jeszcze się uczę, chłopak w ogóle nie…

Paula *

Yo acompañe a mi hermana quien pasó por este proceso, siempre fui una persona…

Gaby

Força, tudo que precisa!

Uma Mulher

Pra mim, fazer um aborto foi um ato de responsabilidade

Jane

I had 2 abortions

Constanza

Bueno yo aborte por que no encontré otra salida...
A principios de diciembre del…