Eléonore Delmas

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I had an abortion

1994 France (dilahirkan di France)

Glad, relieved, focused, back into my body, empowered, sharp

I had 2 abortions. The first was surgery, I was underage, and thus accompanied by my mother (and boyfriend). The second was by RU486, I was 19 and by myself. Surgery in itself can be scary, but this was the mildest operation I ever had (I am however, allergic to morphine now). As for the induced miscarriage, ya feel it, but that's also a good thing, listening to your body - which is obviously what I'd failed to do before. You need some time off to be nice to yourself.

I was 17 and 19 when I had my abortions. My life was spinning out of control in all possible ways (atrocious family relationships, feelings of abandonment, alienation, panic attacks, self-destructive boyfriends, poor hygiene and care of myself, school ditching...). I got pregnant the first time I had sex, and I knew it right away. As well as knowing right away I WOULD NOT HAVE THAT CHILD. Things snapped into focus as I finally took a hold of ME, and reclaimed my body - for a while. The second time... let's say I still hadn't fixed my life (and could not take contraception for health reasons, + am allergic to latex and very very fertile). I know what it's like to not be ready for a child. I could never screw up her/his life alongside mine so royally. Never, ever, ever. Many people have tried to convince me that I would eventually have a depression, that I was inhibiting my feelings. It's been 13 years now, and the only thing I feel when I think about my 2 abortions is joyous relief and gratefulness.

Adakah haramnya pengguguran anda mempengaruhi perasaan anda?

It was legal both times. I was relieved.

Bagaimana reaksi orang lain terhadap pengguguran anda?

I didn't ask for validation, as there was no doubt in my mind. My then boyfriend moaned about it the 2 years we stayed together. My friends asked if I needed anything. My mother (I had to tell her the 1st time since I was 17) remains absolutely mute about it, which is refreshing. A woman stopped me outside of Family Planning and asked if I was "going to kill (my) baby". I usually have a slow sense of repartee, but I slammed her against a wall and said I'd start with killing her. She went ashen and my boyfriend had to pry my fingers off her. This woman represents/ed everything that is wrong with the world.

Magda

Miałam...

Robbin

I had an abortion, and i should not have to hide it. My womb is still just fine.

Lisal M. C

It was a big decided that I made in my life. I had a complexity relationship…

elena

interrumpi un embarazo de 6 semanas

Marta M.

Dokonałam aborcji

noname

Miałam aborcję.

Joice

Já é difícil criar 2 filhos, não conseguiria lidar com um terceiro..

Brenda

Having an abortion was the right thing for my family.

Kah

Decisões difíceis exigem coragem.

Sin GLORIA pero sin PENA

Yo soy dueña de mi jardín,YO RIEGO,YO CORTO.

Jude

....because my pregnancy was unexpected and I did not want another child. My…

Andy

Decidí sobre mi futuro.

Edyta

Nie wstydzę się tego, że jestem teraz szczęśliwa!!!

SD

I had an abortion. It was in October of 2008, when I was 21. The guy I was…

Gaby

Força, tudo que precisa!

Lea

Kobieto, jeśli zaszłaś w niechcianą ciążę, to nie wahaj się ani chwili. WOW…

Jaq

I was 21, and nowhere near ready or willing to carry and birth a child because…