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I had an abortion and I'm not ashamed

2014 كوريا الجنوبية

My baby was conceive without love, with a father who wanted nothing to do with them and a mother without an education. I did this out of LOVE for my child. Because what kind of life would that be? What if my child was disabled? How could I provide for them physically and emotionally? Who would line up to adopt them? My baby wouldn't have been full white. In this world with so much prejudice, who would adopt them? I know my choice was right.

Before taking the pills, I read up on what to expect. So many scary stories of labor pains and vomiting came up, and like a child about to go in for their shot, I got so overwhelmed that I cried. Honestly, I expected the worst. So I prepared myself. Heating pads, extra pillows, blankets, powerade, books, extra pads, toilet paper...I had it all. I'll say it now though...it wasn't that bad at all. At most, it felt like a bad period. I had absolutely no medication either. Breathing and distraction methods did help to get through it though. My advice? Don't be scared, you won't be screaming in agony for hours. Your body can handle it. The previous day I took the mifepristone, which had no side effects. At 6:45pm the next day, after an hour of worrying and wondering if I should just wait until morning or suffer all night, I took my 4 misoprostol pills vaginally. I gag easily and had terrible morning sickness already, so I wasn't going to risk gagging on these pills for 30 minutes. Plus, misoprostol taken orally gives you a higher risk of nausea. After an hour and a half, I started feeling cramps. It's like when you wake up the morning of your period. Annoying, but not to bad. After a few hours they kind of got a bit worse, but bearable. I started bleeding after 3 hours. Shortly after, I got a hot flash, but focused on fanning myself to distract me from the cramps. I then took the second dose, again vaginally. It was a couple hours of cramping, and then I'm sure I passed something in the toilet. It came from my vagina, felt soft and round like an egg, and plopped its way down. It didn't hurt. After that, my cramping subsided. I was able to nap for 2 hours before waking up again. After that, it was like a normal period. I still feel a bit crampy sometimes, but it just feels like my regular period cramps.

هل أثر عدم شرعية الإجهاض على مشاعرك؟

Here, it's not so much that abortions can't be done. It's that you have to jump through a lot of hoops to get one. Though I spoke the local language, I wasn't comfortable enough to ask countless doctors, "Can I get an abortion here?" The father of the child also refused to help take me to a clinic, because of the illegal aspect of it.

كيف كان رد فعل الآخرين على الإجهاض؟

As of now, only 3 people know of my past pregnancy. The father, and 2 of my friends. The father was relieved when it was all finally over. One of my friends was completely understanding (he had been with a girl who had an abortion) and supported my decision. The other friend pressured me to parent, but doesn't know about the abortion.

B.

Uma decisão que precisa ser feita rápida porém pensada

Estka

Mam dwójkę wspaniałych dzieci- 9 lat i rok. Nie chcieliśmy z mężem już więcej.

Katarzyna

Nie mogłam mieć dziecka z kilku powodów: jeszcze się uczę, chłopak w ogóle nie…

Anonymous

The wrong idea that abortion is a sin.

Lea

Kobieto, jeśli zaszłaś w niechcianą ciążę, to nie wahaj się ani chwili. WOW…

Carolina Posso

I had an abortion porque me sentía sola, sentía que todo el mundo se iba a…

Karolina

Miałam aborcję

AS

I am having an abortion as I am writing this, at home with cytotec…

Jos

Era lo mejor

F. B

Vivi 2 meses em um pesadelo

Fanti. Alexandra

Sentí y decidí.

Sol

Yo interrumpí un embarazo no deseado.

Emi

Fiz um aborto porque adoro crianças e acredito que só podemos deixar um…

Melanie

No era el momento ni la persona

Kate

and I'm so relieved

Clara Souza

Goataria de compartilhar essa experiência com vocês para dizer fiquem…

K

I was extremely lucky to find a safe place for my abortion.

Daniela Moraes

É fácil defender o aborto das outras. Difícil é decidir quando a gente precisa…

Marina

Nie będę opisywała o tym jak to się stało, że się dowiedziałam, każdy ma na to…